Sex

Don’t Judge a Girl by Her Number

Every sexually active person in America has been asked their number. Not their contact information, but the number of sexual partners they’ve had. The question may come from a friend, lover, casual hookup, or a medical professional; but the question always comes. (Even if you don’t with every partner.) A lot of people feel the need to fib about this number; making it more or less depending on who they’re talking to and the situation. In the Sex Positive Lifestyle it’s common for people to not have an exact count when asked their number. Many people that have been asked, say they focus on each experience instead of the notches on the bed post. It’s not unusual for those that are sexually aware and open to have numbers in triple digits. Here, there is no judgment. As ...

Unicorn Hunting: Catch and Release

According to the Urban Dictionary: Unicorn Noun Colloquial; Synonym for hot bi babe or HBB, often derogatory, condescending, or ironic. A bisexualperson, usually though not always female, who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple. The term is often used to be dismissive of a couple seen to be only superficially polyamorous. Because of the demands that this type of couple places on the woman (that she be single and not take on any additional partners, and become involved with both members of the couple equally, and often “complete” their family as a surrogate mother ...

Mistress Manual: 10 Tips for being a female top

Mistress Manual: 10 Tips for being a female top Men being more dominant over women in the bedroom tends to be par for the course along the entire spectrum of sexuality: vanilla, swinger, kink, group. Biologically men are programmed to take the lead and take what they want; it served as a valuable tool for passing along their genealogy in times when spreading your seed was the key to survival. Though times are different now, and humans have sex for pleasure and recreation far more than they do to procreate, the basic instincts for a man to top a woman in the bedroom remain. We are evolving in our sexuality: kink, fetish, non-monogamy. One very common request/fantasy I have encountered and, being an alternative sex enthusiast, is female dominance. This can be as simple as a woman expressing ...

Threesome 101: How I Planned a Ménage à Trois

The question on my husband’s birthday is always: What do you get for the man who has nothing? My husband isn’t a shopper; he buys food and, lately, diapers. He recently declared that he has enough pants to last the rest of his life. When I asked about his intentions regarding a drawer containing dozens of stray socks, he said his heirs would sort it out. For his 40th birthday, I had my eye on a vintage watch. It would complement his tattered sweaters and declare to the world that he is, in fact, employed. But when I mention this to him, he balks. He says that what he really wants isn’t a good, but a service: a threesome with me and another woman. HE SAYS THAT WHAT HE REALLY WANTS ISN’T A GOOD, BUT A SERVICE. This isn’t exactly surprising. He’d voiced the...

Talking With Emily Witt About Future Sex, Marriage, and Porn

Emily Witt’s Future Sex begins in what is, perhaps, the least romantic settings imaginable: a public health clinic. Witt finds herself there, being tested for chlamydia after sleeping with a friend, a casual encounter that had little to do with commitment or dating or love; a familiar experience in the era of what critics often panickedly refer to as hookup culture. “That night had been finite and uncomplicated,” Witt writes. “It did not merit so much attention.” What should have been a fleeting encounter turns into a more profound realization for Witt, an awareness that her sexual relationships were ones that resisted familiar narratives of love, sex, and gender. “I still envisioned my sexual experience eventually reaching a terminus, like a monorail gliding to a stop at Epcot Center,” Wi...

Why Are Lesbians So Attractive to Men? Find Out Here…

Two lesbians ask a woman what she thinks of two gay men having sex and the response might be anything from generally ambivalent acceptance to “Ewww.” Ask a man about two women having sex and the response will almost always invariably be “Can I watch?” Let’s face it: Lesbians are hot. Why are men so obsessed with lesbians? Technically, the idea of lesbianism should be really irritating to men because it takes not one, but two, eligible women off the market. Still, there are reasons why men might not mind the idea of a woman who prefers the company of other women. Do men think they can “turn” lesbians? The prevailing opinion of the average man when they see a lesbian is that she just hasn’t been with a real man yet. If the lesbian in question is particularly appealing to a man, he will see t...

Introductory Guide to BDSM. It’s All About Trust…

In the child’s game, Trust Me, one person stands behind the other. The one in front falls backward, trusting the other to catch them before crashing to the floor. Trust Me contains an element of danger, the risk of not getting caught and getting hurt. The person falling places great trust in the person catching. When the falling player trusts the catcher enough to let go completely, and the catch happens as planned, both players experience a moment of exhilaration that’s difficult to duplicate any other way. It’s About Trust BDSM is similar. The myth is that it’s abusive and weird—whips and chains! Actually it’s about trust. When trust trumps the possibility of harm, the result can feel incredibly intimate and erotic. There are several terms for BDSM: power-play or domination-submission (D...

How to Ease Into Anal Sex? Ask These Two Women

Generally speaking, anal sex isn’t the first thing that comes to mind when you are thinking of mutually pleasurable things to do with a partner. Instead, the urban sex legend goes, “Guys want it because they’ve heard it’s tighter than normal sex and they’ve seen it in porn, and girls occasionally acquiesce as a bargaining chip/reward/very special birthday present.” But aside from tipsy late-night conversations between women (or women and their gay guy friends), practical knowledge of butt sex in the wild is hard to come by. Thus, we asked two women who have actually done it about their motives, their preparation process, and whether it’s ever gotten them off. Probably the No. 1 thing we all want to know is … does it hurt? Woman A: For me, it ...

What Are Top 10 Sexual Fetishes? Find Out Here…

Most people just want to know if they fall on the sexually “normal” spectrum, typically to justify what’s going through their mind when they are fantasizing. The truth is, there is no normal when it comes to sex; the only constants are diversity and variation, because we are all different in our sexual desires! As long as there’s mutual consent and satisfaction with your partner, it really doesn’t matter what you chalk up to normal. So, what’s the difference between a fantasy and a fetish? A fantasy is something you spend a good amount thinking about while having sex or masturbating. Some of these fantasies are high up on your sexual bucket list and some you’d prefer never to see the light of day. A fetish, however, is something that HAS to be present for you to achieve arousal and orgasm....